A phone conversation.
"So, do you want this jacket that I just found? I'm here, at the store and I thought you may like it. Leather, brown. Nice fur around the neck."
"Umm... I don't know mom. I still have so many jackets you gave me."
"Really? But you may like this one. For the fall. It's perfect. Not too warm, not too cool."
"I dunno... I don't think I need it."
"You don't like the jackets I buy you? You don't like this one?"
"Um, no... I just want to -choose a jacket by myself-."
"Okay, if you don't want it..."
From what I experienced and my research, borderline personality disorder/borderline traits are like a trap wrapped in a gift paper within a trap withing a gift within a trap within a trap... and so on... you don't wanna try to reach these gifts in the end....it costs much too much!